I am delighted to bring you my first guest-blogger, Maria!
Writing is a tough life and it’s even harder when faced with fear and rejection.
From the moment we submit our work for appraisal, we are scolded and prodded and made to feel lower than amoeba. And don’t even get me started about what happens after you get published. Total strangers will come out of the woodworks to marginalize you and your work.
:sigh: Everybody’s a critic.
As I’ve come to terms with the life I’ve chosen, I’ve learned a few tricks to keep from falling into the well-known slumps all writers face. I’ve gotten so good at beating the blues, I’ve even given myself a doctorate in Punchology.
There are basically two kinds of depression, the kind that’s hardwired into your brain (nature), and the kind you earn from disappointment (nurture).
I can’t help you with the hardwired downers, but I can tell you how to beat the other kind.
• Develop a support group. Sounds easy, doesn’t it? But it’s not quite as simple as having a shoulder to cry on. You need a group of people who will not only empathize, but push you back on that horse. Don’t settle for pats on the back. Look for a group that will also give you that boot to the butt.
• Create a safe place. Whenever I get one too many rejections or a stinging review, I go to my garden and pull weeds. Pulling weeds is good for any kind of contemplation, but especially useful when you want to fight back without causing bodily harm to anyone.
• De-clutter. A clean desk soothes a troubled mind. It’s amazing how much more productive you’ll be too. It’s cathartic and it gives you less niches for depression to set in.
• Distract yourself. Distractions can be anything. Movies, books, running—even the occasional chocolate truffle. It’s all good…especially the truffles.
• Get a pet. Seriously. Nothing beats a sweet dog kiss or the gentle purr of a cat. Besides you’ll be too busy catering to them to think about yourself.
• Volunteer. I don’t know what it is about volunteering, but I can guarantee you that it works. It doesn’t matter where you volunteer either. Though if you volunteer for your writing group or a big conference you are bound to get a bonus with all the new people you’ll meet.
• Punch somebody out. 🙂 Okay. Not really. But sometimes depression needs more than flowers and peppy music. It needs a hard right hook. Before I became gimpy, I used to walk a lot. Other people might use kickboxing or aerobics. It can be anything. All you need is a physical outlet to vent your anger.
When all else fails, just scream.
—Only, make sure no one can hear you. We don’t want the police to break down your door.
Your Turn: If you too would like your very own Doctorate of Punchology, tell me what you do to give yourself a lift.
Maria Zannini’s latest release is a science fiction romance called TRUE BELIEVERS.
Mix one cynical immortal and one true believer and throw them into the biggest alien-hunt the world has never known. Rachel Cruz is a Nephilim masquerading as an archeologist and she’s stuck with an alien who believes she can lead him to his ancestral gods. Black Ops wants to find these gods too. They want them dead.
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